Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes someone with character to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean what happened was okay, and doesn’t necessarily mean that person should still be welcome in your life, but it means that you have made peace with the pain and are ready to let go. When you forgive, you release yourself from a heavy burden. If someone does something to hurt you, or something that you don’t agree with, you have to remember that holding a grudge against them only hurts you and causes bitterness.
Instead of holding a grudge against someone, I have found it much easier to just try and understand why the person did what they did. There may have been reasons that you didn’t know about, or it could have even been a misunderstanding. You can’t move forward if you hang on to being hurt or angry. Choosing to forgive helps you focus on the positive, instead of staying negative. Not forgiving could even hurt you physically by getting so worked up and causing your blood pressure to rise.
While researching forgiveness, I came across a website that had an article titled “How to Forgive.” In this article, there were 12 steps listed on how to forgive. The article also talked about how many different studies show that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts. To live a long and happy life, we must learn to forgive the unforgivable, for it is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain, sadness, and suffering purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be free of this evil. Even though at times I have found it hard to forgive someone, doing so anyway has made me a much happier person and I am now even friends with some people I once referred to as my enemies.